Rank each statement to the extent that it applies to you or that you agree with it. 

Never Applies to Me   Sometimes (Somewhat) Applies to Me  Always Applies to Me ( 0 1 2 3 4 5 )

Questions:

Blind Spot #1
___1.   I fall hard and fast when I’m attracted to someone.
___2.  The more challenging the man; the harder I fall.
___3.   I long for the thrill of falling in love.
____  Total for Blind Spot #1

Blind Spot #2
___1.  The best men I know are either married or taken.
___2.  It’s been hard to find a single man as good as the married
men I know.
___3.  Every single guy I meet seems to have a glaring fault.
_____ Total for Blind Spot #2

Blind Spot #3
___1.  Men are attracted to me, it’s just hard to find one I feel the
 same about.
___2.  I’d like a “composite boyfriend” with all of the best
qualities of the guys I’ve dated.
___3.  I’m holding out for a soul mate.
_____ Total for Blind Spot #3

Blind Spot #4
___1.  At this time my primary focus is my work.
___2.  There’s plenty of time to find a mate.
___3.  I’m glad I don’t have the responsibility of marriage and
family right now.
_____ Total for Blind Spot #4

Blind Spot #5
___1.   The nice guys I meet are more like friends.
___2.  It’s easier for me to be friends with guys than find a guy
 I’m attracted to.
___3.  I have or have had at least one male friend who would
 like to be in a love relationship with me.

_____ Total for Blind Spot #5 

Answer Key:

Boyfriend Blind Spot #1: The Bad Boy Syndrome

A score of nine or above on this blind spot is cause for alarm. Successful women often get addicted to the thrill of the chase, the challenge of the competition. Being comfortable with formidable tasks, she charges forward after the guy who gives her the biggest buzz. Best cure for Bad Boy Blind Spot: tell him to buzz off!

Boyfriend Blind Spot #2: All the Good Ones are Taken

Any score at all on this blind spot begs for your attention. If you believe that all the good guys are taken or that one glaring fault can deep-six a relationship, then you need to take time to widen your vision to include the wonderful man who is likely right under your nose.

Boyfriend Blind Spot #3: Peril of the Perfect Match

OK, you’ve managed to create a good life for yourself in every area but love. Your high standards have served you well but any score above 10 on this blind spot reeks of perfectionism and begs the question: are you afraid of succeeding or failing in love?

Boyfriend Blind Spot #4: Oops, I Forgot to Get Married!

Contrary to popular belief research shows that the ideal time to get married (if  marital happy and stability are your goals) is between the ages of 23 and 27. Now, this doesn’t mean that you are doomed if you don’t, but many successful women are reaching the third and fourth decade wishing they had paid more attention to mate selection earlier in life. If a committed relationship is in your long term goal, better sooner than later. A score of nine or above should alert you.

Boyfriend Blind Spot #5: Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places

Even a low score (six or above) on this blind spot should be a cause for more examination. Eighty percent of people in happy relationships tell you that friendship is the most important ingredient in long term love. If you are good at friendships but fatal in love-take a second look at the nice guy; the love of your life may already be in your social circle.

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